У дорогих нашему сердцу людей важно на самом деле спрашивать как дела.
А не для того, чтобы ответили “ok”
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Not a small talk, but a good talk.
Not to check if the one is ok- but to be able to hear how he/she really is.
Don’t shortcut yourself and your feelings. This gradually diminishes your relationships, widens the distance between you and the loved ones. Don’t do that, ever - make it a small step by step movement, even if it’s an awkward one, but closer to the heart of your partner, child, colleague you value. A tiny personal touch will make your two souls feel a bit more in peace and safety to open towards each other.
Thus, a good homey feeling will be a basis for your communication.